Maybe we are not like other couples. Our get-away weekend in the big city included a romantic dinner in a fancy restaurant, slow dancing while telling you how much I love you, and then later on, meeting your internet date in the hotel bar as scheduled and getting your needs fulfilled while I wait, wonder, and imagine what’s going on up in the room.
It couldn’t be more perfect really.
About 3 or 4 times a week now the wife stops by her boyfriend’s office after hours to relieve some stress. Happy wife = happy life. Modern marriage.
So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If you’re not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned.
If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny.
Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet.
He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Don’t feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever.
You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife.
A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husband’s involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her.
Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before.
I assume you’re reading this because you’ve finally found out about your husband’s desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice.
First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you.
If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!
In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband:
1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know you’re married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single.
2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your “dates”). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters.
3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husband’s presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all.
As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic ménage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences.
Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. It’s important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the “other” man fully understands everything as well. It’s important for him to know upfront where he fits into the couple’s relationship. It’s also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband).
With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge.
As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that.
Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him.
Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.)
Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it?
First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman.
DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. That’s NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why).
When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that you’re in charge.
If you want, it’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!).
It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant.
This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH.
When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household.
Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc.
Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together.
If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch.
When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husband’s role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you.
First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. But the excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting.
When the man arrives at your home, don’t be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. It’s too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows he’s there for sex. There’s no reason to delay. Since it’s all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your “take charge” persona that comes with the control you’ve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches.
If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my “date” right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope.
Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay.
You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. It’s up to you. You’re the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. It’s up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge.
My advice is to NOT look at or talk to your husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. Many women feel a need to talk to their husband for reassurance. But try to resist this.
Don’t glance at him constantly asking if it’s OK. Try to totally PRETEND HE’S NOT THERE. Watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. They want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience.
Here’s more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Put your husband out of your mind. Don’t be shy or act inhibited. Don’t be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him.
Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal.
Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door.
After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet.
The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN!
Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Each relationship is different. Do what’s right for you two.
But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husband’s arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again.
Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you.
Chances are you’ll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. That’s just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, you’ll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he.
If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled.
There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.
Sometimes a naughty hotwife date turns into a sleepover which leads to naughty sex the next morning before she comes home.
- Have the Hotwife suck your cock in a semi-public place while the husband stands guard
- Have the husband leave the bedroom for short periods of time while you are having sex with his wife
- Have the husband sit in the closet or someplace out of sight, where he can hear the sex but not see anything
- The first time you spend the night at the couple’s home, and if you sleep in the guest room, slip into their bed at 4:00 a.m. and awaken them by crawling between the Hotwife’s legs and fucking her
- Meet the Hotwife at her home or your home for a mid-day nooner, while the husband is at work
- Spend the night later at the home of the couple, with you and the Hotwife sleeping in the master bedroom this time, and the husband sleeping alone in the guest room
- When doing the above, send the Hotwife to visit her husband every hour, so that he can touch, taste and smell the sex on his wife
- Stop by the couple’s home on short notice late at night, fuck the Hotwife and leave
- When having sex with the Hotwife alone at your place, call the husband at home and let him listen in
- Use a video camera to tape yourself and the Hotwife having sex, then send her home to her husband with the video
- Pick up the Hotwife at her home, take her out to dinner, then return to her home together and go straight to their bedroom for sex. Leave the hubby in the living room
- Use the Hotwife’s cell phone to take pics of her sucking and fucking you, and send them to the husband while you’re having sex
- Spend time socializing in the living room with the couple, perhaps watching a movie. But sit next to the Hotwife, kissing, teasing, groping and treating her like your wife
- Have the husband lay next to his wife in bed and continuously apply liberal amounts of lube while you fuck her tits until you cum
- Share the Hotwife with a male friend (or two) while her husband watches
- Share the Hotwife with a female friend (if both are bi) while her husband watches
- Go to a swing club with the couple, with you and the Hotwife being the “couple”
- Have sex on the beach at night while the husband stands lookout
- Have the husband put his face inches away from his wife’s pussy while you fuck her, then tell him to masturbate to orgasm like that
- Call the husband ahead of a date or a visit, and tell him to dress his wife in a certain way, or tell him to make sure her pussy is shaved bald for you, etc.
- Have the Hotwife talk to her husband while you fuck her, making sure to smile at him and tell him how much better the sex is with you
- Buy a “Hotwife” or “Cuckold” anklet for the Hotwife and have her wear it when you go out in public
- Have the husband tie his Hotwife to their bed spread eagle and blindfold her before you arrive, then you fuck her hard and rough while he watches
- All three of you attend a (adult) house party, with you and the Hotwife acting as the main couple
- Have the husband drive his Hotwife to your place for sex. Then make him wait in the living room while you take his wife to the bedroom
- While at a public function or party with a couple, whisk the Hotwife away to a private spot, have sex with her, then return and let the husband know
- When all of you are at a restaurant together, you and the Hotwife go out to the car for a quick sex session (fucking or blowjob) then return to the table and sit side by side
- Call the Hotwife and hubby at their home, and have him go down on her while you and she have phone sex
- Have the Hotwife take off her wedding rings and hand them to the husband before she goes into the bedroom with you, or goes out on a date with you
- Have the Hotwife kneel in front of you and have her husband hold her head from behind while you fuck her mouth until you cum
- Have the husband kneel in front of you and have the Hotwife hold his head from behind while you fuck his mouth until you cum
- Arrange to take the couple to a group or orgy scene, but only you and the Hotwife play. The husband is limited to watching only
- Have the husband lay against the headboard on the bed, with his Hotwife leaning against him or laying on him, so that he can feel the power of your thrusts while you fuck her
- Have the husband suck your cock and/or offer up his ass for sex when the Hotwife is unavailable or out of town
- One night when the Hotwife visits you at your home convince her to stay the entire night and go home the next morning (Hint - alcohol is your friend!)
- Surprise the husband coming home from work by fucking his wife on the bed or sofa when he walks in
- When out in public together put your arm around the Hotwife frequently, acting as her husband
- Make it the husband’s role to “prepare” his wife’s pussy every time you penetrate her. Have him do this whenever you take a break or change positions and between every fuck
- Get in the backseat of a car with the Hotwife at night and have the husband drive you around town while you have sex with her
- Bend the wife over your knee and spank her bottom red in front of the husband and then fuck her
- While socializing at the couples home, ask the husband to get drinks and refills for you and the Hotwife. When he returns with a refill have his wife on her knees sucking your cock
- Take the Hotwife on an overnight trip out of town
- Have the husband lay next to his wife in bed, kissing her while at the same time holding one of her legs, helping spread her wide as you fuck her (even better if she cums like this)
- Have the Hotwife do something for you that she would not do for her husband, or that he has been unable to get her to do
- Have the husband drive his wife to your home wearing nothing but a full-length coat. When he drops her off tell him to return at a prearranged time to pick her up
- Call or text the Hotwife late at night and tell her to leave her bed and meet you somewhere for a quick fuck
- After fucking her with the husband watching, have the Hotwife spread her legs for him and masturbate while she tells him how much she loved it